Wednesday, July 14, 2010
In With the New, Out With the Old?
I'm now a writer on OUR family blog ... but I haven't decided what that means for my own blog... keep.... have two? .... combine? consolidate? .....
Until then - read my latest post on his.. correction, OUR blog.
http://phillipspost.blogspot.com/
Until then - read my latest post on his.. correction, OUR blog.
http://phillipspost.blogspot.com/
Separation Anxiety
A few weeks ago, I, Daisy Chou, married my best friend, Andy Phillips, for all time and eternity. And then, he told me I could be a writer on his old blog that will now be our family blog and so it is, I am here!!! Ta-da!!!
Back to a few weeks ago… it was a long and beautiful day, full of family, friends, and happiness. I couldn't figure out if the smile plastered from ear to ear on my face like a mannequin was because 1) all the planning for the wedding (I'm a little OCD and had too much time to organize my ideas into excel and powerpoint which were then executed with the help, support, guidance and love of awesome family and friends) was over and the planning for life (the important stuff) was just beginning; 2) our life as ONE that was starting; or 3) the joy of my handsome husband (that is Andy) with a ring on his left hand. I think all of the above suffices in this case.
For two weeks, I was with Andy EVERYDAY, and we were inseparable! Together, we ran through an aisle of sparklers three times, sat in our decorated wedding car all the way to LAX, flew to Kona Hawaii for a week where we biked, hiked, kayaked, snorkelled, and visited the Temple, drove to Salt Lake City where we bowled, BBQed, had another beautiful reception, visited Temple Square with my family and kicked butt at Wizards and Blockus and road tripped back to California where we unloaded gifts and integrated them into the house, made our first Costco trip as one, organized and decorated (or attempted to) our apartment and planned for our life post honeymoon. It was so much fun that I still smile just thinking about it!
And so, when the day came for us to go back to school and work, it was quite a dreadful day and nature felt the same because it was a rainy and dreary day in LA despite being July. July 6th was one of the longest days of my life. Work seemed so slow and all I could think about was, where did my best friend go or what is he doing right now? He used to be within 6 feet at all times, and all of a sudden he was gone! It felt unusually atypical to not hear his voice. Weirdly uncomfortable to not see his face. Oddly unsettling to not have him nearby. Luckily, the end of the work day easily remedied the symptoms of separation anxiety that I was feeling and we both quickly adapted to our time away during the day as we tended to our personal responsibilities and it wasn't so bad. Not so bad at all…
And then, I was told I had to go to Chicago for a two day training, which meant three days and two nights away from Andy (because of the time change) and immediately I thought, OH NO!!!! I'm not ready for such time away! I barely just adjusted to 9 hours away everyday! It's times like these that I'm grateful for the examples of other couples who have been through thick and thin and have weathered through many storms and would view my separation anxiety as a light drizzle, if that. It makes me chuckle to think how my mom would react if I told her how hard it is to be away for just a few days (especially considering my first day in our LA apartment, I was holding on for dear life to my blankie because I was homesick).
Both Andy and I have parents who will be celebrating their thirty year anniversaries this upcoming year and it's such a joy and gives us a lot of reason to smile for the next thirty years for them and us. Until then, let's hope I can get through one day away because I know, without a doubt, there will be much more difficult obstacles than separation anxiety but I'm so grateful it's with my best friend. What better person to have separation anxiety for?
Back to a few weeks ago… it was a long and beautiful day, full of family, friends, and happiness. I couldn't figure out if the smile plastered from ear to ear on my face like a mannequin was because 1) all the planning for the wedding (I'm a little OCD and had too much time to organize my ideas into excel and powerpoint which were then executed with the help, support, guidance and love of awesome family and friends) was over and the planning for life (the important stuff) was just beginning; 2) our life as ONE that was starting; or 3) the joy of my handsome husband (that is Andy) with a ring on his left hand. I think all of the above suffices in this case.
For two weeks, I was with Andy EVERYDAY, and we were inseparable! Together, we ran through an aisle of sparklers three times, sat in our decorated wedding car all the way to LAX, flew to Kona Hawaii for a week where we biked, hiked, kayaked, snorkelled, and visited the Temple, drove to Salt Lake City where we bowled, BBQed, had another beautiful reception, visited Temple Square with my family and kicked butt at Wizards and Blockus and road tripped back to California where we unloaded gifts and integrated them into the house, made our first Costco trip as one, organized and decorated (or attempted to) our apartment and planned for our life post honeymoon. It was so much fun that I still smile just thinking about it!
And so, when the day came for us to go back to school and work, it was quite a dreadful day and nature felt the same because it was a rainy and dreary day in LA despite being July. July 6th was one of the longest days of my life. Work seemed so slow and all I could think about was, where did my best friend go or what is he doing right now? He used to be within 6 feet at all times, and all of a sudden he was gone! It felt unusually atypical to not hear his voice. Weirdly uncomfortable to not see his face. Oddly unsettling to not have him nearby. Luckily, the end of the work day easily remedied the symptoms of separation anxiety that I was feeling and we both quickly adapted to our time away during the day as we tended to our personal responsibilities and it wasn't so bad. Not so bad at all…
And then, I was told I had to go to Chicago for a two day training, which meant three days and two nights away from Andy (because of the time change) and immediately I thought, OH NO!!!! I'm not ready for such time away! I barely just adjusted to 9 hours away everyday! It's times like these that I'm grateful for the examples of other couples who have been through thick and thin and have weathered through many storms and would view my separation anxiety as a light drizzle, if that. It makes me chuckle to think how my mom would react if I told her how hard it is to be away for just a few days (especially considering my first day in our LA apartment, I was holding on for dear life to my blankie because I was homesick).
Both Andy and I have parents who will be celebrating their thirty year anniversaries this upcoming year and it's such a joy and gives us a lot of reason to smile for the next thirty years for them and us. Until then, let's hope I can get through one day away because I know, without a doubt, there will be much more difficult obstacles than separation anxiety but I'm so grateful it's with my best friend. What better person to have separation anxiety for?
Thursday, July 8, 2010
So Much To Catch Up On
but until I find the time to blog about it all... here are some honeymoon photos...
Monday, June 14, 2010
We Graduated from the Singles Ward!
Today was Andy and my last time at Glendale 7th YSA (young-single adults) ward and coincidentally, my one year anniversary since being baptized.
Being baptized was the best decision of my life. Marrying Andy will be the next best decision. But how often do we make bad decisions and then mope about 'em for way too long?
I have been moping about my marshmallow smore seat placecards. It was a bad decision, but I think I need to build a bridge and get over it because I am 5 days away, about 150 smore seat placecards to go and attitude makes a big difference. So going forward, I am going to excitedly glue 150 marshmallows to two pieces of tan foam board with an extra piece of brown foam cut into the shape of a heart - and don't forget two googly eyes!
Though I have a lot to do before the wedding, I'm feeling good about everything outstanding... and really excited for the big day. A bit scared that I won't have any clothes to pack for Hawaii since most of my stuff has already been moved into our future apartment, but overall grinning ear to ear at the prospect of all time and eternity with my best friend. It's not going to be easy, but we'll have great attitudes about it!
2 days until I'm done working
4 days until I go through the Temple
5 days until I'm married
6 days until Hawaii
Being baptized was the best decision of my life. Marrying Andy will be the next best decision. But how often do we make bad decisions and then mope about 'em for way too long?
I have been moping about my marshmallow smore seat placecards. It was a bad decision, but I think I need to build a bridge and get over it because I am 5 days away, about 150 smore seat placecards to go and attitude makes a big difference. So going forward, I am going to excitedly glue 150 marshmallows to two pieces of tan foam board with an extra piece of brown foam cut into the shape of a heart - and don't forget two googly eyes!
Though I have a lot to do before the wedding, I'm feeling good about everything outstanding... and really excited for the big day. A bit scared that I won't have any clothes to pack for Hawaii since most of my stuff has already been moved into our future apartment, but overall grinning ear to ear at the prospect of all time and eternity with my best friend. It's not going to be easy, but we'll have great attitudes about it!
2 days until I'm done working
4 days until I go through the Temple
5 days until I'm married
6 days until Hawaii
Friday, June 11, 2010
Oh So Grateful
I'm grateful for....
salty crispy chicken at the local Boba places.
good seamstresses who can fix ugly dresses.
whipped Yoplait key lime yogurt.
a brother who came back early and has been running wedding errands for me during the day.
a big soft purple covered bed at night.
girlfriends who swing by to pick up stuff when I am too tired to go drop it off even if I said I would.
cut fruit from my mom to bring with me to work everyday.
a famima downstairs of my office.
a future mother-in-law who is sewing one of a kind, original and adorable flower girl dresses
pretty high heels
co-worker/friends who offer to make my bridesmaids' 3-piece crystal jewelry for the wedding for free!
hand sanitizer outside of the elevators when I get to work.
a future sister-in-law who has connections to a DJ and a slideshow maker!
a day of wedding coordinator who has already begun to call my vendors for reminders.
the post office sending us packages through the mail.
bridesmaids who are making thank you gifts for every guest.
HD television so I can see the Lakers win and the Celtics lose as if I was there.
public transportation, even in LA!
a future father-in-law who is eager to help construct a backdrop for us.
buddies who have helped me make over 100 Martha Stewart poms
water to drink so I'm not thirsty.
Bar Method on video so I can stay toned without money for the live classes that are $20 each.
a fiance who now goes downstairs to the Temple with me to do baptisms every Friday.
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a father who brought along a rolling tape measure and got me the measurements within 5 minutes.
a job that gives me the flexibility to get fitted for both dresses on a Friday morning.
music that makes me smile.
deals and steals at Marshall's, Ross and TJ Maxx
a cell phone.
gchat during work hours.
excel.
Martha Stewart weddings website.
smelly lotion.
stuffed animals.
ice cream.
people offering to help.
e-mail on my cell phone.
wonderful counseling from the prophets reminding me of the many tender mercies in my life.
angels from above.
the opportunity to constantly improve.
patience. the lack thereof which reminds me of why I need it.
love.
peace.
faith.
life.
8 more days until forever with Andy begins.
salty crispy chicken at the local Boba places.
good seamstresses who can fix ugly dresses.
whipped Yoplait key lime yogurt.
a brother who came back early and has been running wedding errands for me during the day.
a big soft purple covered bed at night.
girlfriends who swing by to pick up stuff when I am too tired to go drop it off even if I said I would.
cut fruit from my mom to bring with me to work everyday.
a famima downstairs of my office.
a future mother-in-law who is sewing one of a kind, original and adorable flower girl dresses
pretty high heels
co-worker/friends who offer to make my bridesmaids' 3-piece crystal jewelry for the wedding for free!
hand sanitizer outside of the elevators when I get to work.
a future sister-in-law who has connections to a DJ and a slideshow maker!
a day of wedding coordinator who has already begun to call my vendors for reminders.
the post office sending us packages through the mail.
bridesmaids who are making thank you gifts for every guest.
HD television so I can see the Lakers win and the Celtics lose as if I was there.
public transportation, even in LA!
a future father-in-law who is eager to help construct a backdrop for us.
buddies who have helped me make over 100 Martha Stewart poms
water to drink so I'm not thirsty.
Bar Method on video so I can stay toned without money for the live classes that are $20 each.
a fiance who now goes downstairs to the Temple with me to do baptisms every Friday.
spanx
a father who brought along a rolling tape measure and got me the measurements within 5 minutes.
a job that gives me the flexibility to get fitted for both dresses on a Friday morning.
music that makes me smile.
deals and steals at Marshall's, Ross and TJ Maxx
a cell phone.
gchat during work hours.
excel.
Martha Stewart weddings website.
smelly lotion.
stuffed animals.
ice cream.
people offering to help.
e-mail on my cell phone.
wonderful counseling from the prophets reminding me of the many tender mercies in my life.
angels from above.
the opportunity to constantly improve.
patience. the lack thereof which reminds me of why I need it.
love.
peace.
faith.
life.
8 more days until forever with Andy begins.
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